Everyone needs an Aunt Bea…………………..

So, when you are married over 70 years, do you think a hospital will call your great niece and ask her to come referee a domestic dispute involving a cane, a wheelchair, and a bed that you get zipped up in at night? Usually, they call when he won’t calm down and Aunt Bea isn’t there……………ususally I go until Aunt Bea can get there…………usually John Hawk loses yet another day of his young life to the confines of St Vincent where he has lots of questions about Mary and why she looks out to the fence at the back of Academy Sports………….One time the snow all melted away while we saw to a situation and John’s reply was “Well I thought it was gonna be dark when we left, so no snow’s bad but at least there’s daylight when we leave the place…………..”  God Bless John, he’s a great kid.

This time………I called my brother…………a fairly new member of the Argenta community where he is like Norm from Cheers and can walk home safely………he got to hear the redition of TAMMY”S SONG D-I-V-O-R-C-E………………

 Uncle Tom’s been in the hospital since FEB 22 and she’s been with him 24/7 since ………over a week and perhaps too long…….even for being married 70 almost 71 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  He’s a spry 93 and still drove every weekday to the Hays center to walk, to church on Sunday and to Kroger’s on McCain……just a warning…….. She’s a more demur 90 and still handles everything in their lives just fine………and handles Aunt Jewell’s bills as well……..Aunt Jewell is the quintisetial old maid school teacher, her older sister who is over 100 and looking at 101 soon……………. People say………..oh, you’re so sweet to help with them……..longevity is in the family, someone will re-pay you……………I sigh and say thank you and for shock value I tell some of them, I’m adopted and they’re killing me!!!!!!!!!  Side note, I am adopted and longevity is not among the biological family’s traits……sigh, smile

 So, Switzerland cannot come soon enough…………Wed before you are up I’d bet…………..they have wonderful church friends and hey, that’s a blessing I can say I share with them……………….. I have wonderful friends and fellow Christ followers at FN.

Pray for everyone’s health on a serious note and just for fun  picture the nurses as they deal with these wonderful Christian examples that have long been a part of my life. 

 Oh, and they decided that divorce comes off the table…………thankfully……………….

And she’s sweet like Andy’s Aunt Bea………………..

PS can anyone tell me how to get spell check to work on this blog thing???

Wow, three days……………we leave 3-19

I just didn’t think it would ever come…………………………we said goodbye on August 5th as she boarded that plane  and we will say hello in person, hug her, look her over……….really see her on March 20th in Switzerland………………..it was hard to let her go, it will be harder to say goodbye after this short time together………..but wow, what a difference in her life………….bi lingual, independent, grown in ways I cannot know right now…………………I know she’s still a kid, but she’ll be different from the one I let go of in the airport all those months ago………What to expect?  I really don’t know……….I just want to see her, hold her and listen to her………I want Kyly and Paige to have a heck of a time in Paris, on their own while we are at Disney with John.  I want us to hold dear these memories of a trip I bet we’d never taken if our little dreamer hadn’t gone on this adventure…………………I want to drink it the ambiance of Venice and Zurich and Luzern and Paris and the roads in between…………..

I remember oh so well, she was 5, Paige was 8 —-John wasn’t on the radar…………  We moved from Kellogg Valley to the house we live in now.  We were excited……a playroom and lots of room to grow up a family in…….Kyly was crying……….I asked her what was wrong and she said, ” you said we were moving……” with crocodile tears…..  I said, “we did move, sweetie,………you are in a new room in a new house!”  She said, “but it’s the same McDonald’s, the same Harvest Foods, the same Taco Bell………………………we didn’t go anywhere!” 

We knew then that she was not going to live here forever but we couldn’t have imagined we’d be visiting her in a country where she is speaking another language on a daily basis…………a place she would call home and love.

 Wow, it’s almost overwhelming…………..

 I can’t wait to see her……………….

This one will make you stop and think………..and count your blessings……….

So……………….. did today end like it began?  I mean, did the same people leave your house this morning  and come home tonight………………it’s not that way for my friend Liz and her husband Kevin……………………. instead, a state trooper came to Liz’s door and knocked…………..Kevin called her earlier, he’d run out of gas on the way home.  He didn’t answer his phone anymore when she called him back………………the trooper told her why………………………….the funeral was Monday.  His 19 year old, 15 year old, 8 year old and newborn along with Liz are left without him………………………………..they will need the help of people who claim Christ as our savior.  Christ commands us to help the widows…………and orphans……………………and here is an opportunity…………..call me, I know how you can help her if you’d like to.   What is Christ telling your heart to do?  Only you know what he’s saying to you.  But when you lay your head down tonight and someone is breathing beside you…………..snoring, even………..count them……………..every snore, every sigh………………..every blessing…………..count them……………..Kevin was 37.  A hard worker, worked at the same place for 13 or so years, in the military before that…………………….father to 4.  I know them because of their oldest, actually he’s Kevin’s step-son but you wouldn’t know  he was anything but a son of Kevin’s………….. oh, he gave kevin and Liz a run for their money sometimes, but they were there for him…………….. Kevin was there.  And now he’s not………….not on purpose…………………but he’s gone…………..The media said, ” a 27 year old woman from Cabot hit a pedistrian today on Hwy 67-167………….”  His teenage daughter said it so well……………………………mama, he wasn’t a pedistrian,  he was somebody………….. Yeah he was, he was her daddy…………………………………………..he was a husband…………………….he was a friend……………he was a good man………………………..

Count them tonight my friends, count the breaths of your children, your husband, your wife and all those you love………… and count all your blessings,  thank God for them ………………

old is just a state of mind…………….or not

so when I talked to Aunt Bea (90) and she said Uncle Tom (93, married for almost 71 years) was sick, I wasn’t too worried—–They eat like Alison does and I wish we did, grow a lot of their own food still in their own garden, he walks every day at the Hays center, they are Christ followers……….great examples for my family, for lots of others too.  But he was really  sick, bad reaction to a medication prescribed for a cough, then bad reaction to an antibiotic in the hospital,  his doctor left the country for an emergency and we didn’t know it, new doc is great,  and after some really bad nights,  he is better…………………..

 What a minute by minute example of how marriage is supposed to go…………..she helps him, he asks if she is okay if she isn’t there……….is someone checking on her,  she wants to help him eat his dinner and when he doesn’t want to, she tells him to take another bite because he should and he does.

 When they are at home, they play cards together at night before bed,  their life centered around God and His word………..just ask Uncle Tom and he’ll have some scripture to back up what he believes……..he knows it well.  We don’t always agree but we both love the Lord.

They eat a big breakfast together and then lunch too.  She still cooks, they still drive [hey, they live on Locust  by FN—-always yield to Bronze colored Mercury (it’s a big one)]!!!!!!!!!!

Still go to church and lots of church functions……………..living life………………making the dash between the years of birth and death count.  Their dash has been lived well and filled with love…………he adores her to this day.  Right now she’s taking care of him, but he’s done the same plenty of times over the 10+ hip and leg surgeries and breast cancer………………….man……..they are the quinticentual couple.  What advice about marriage they have…………..just ask them………….they say they play cards so they can still enjoy each other and keep their minds active…………so they don’t (didn’t) grow old watching TV and wondering when the other would fall asleep so they could change the channel……………..He works the jumble puzzle and she does the crossword and they try to finish what the other couldn’t……………..they laugh at and with each other, they poke fun at each other and they argue with each other and get over it………..all of it is fun to watch…………..Kenny,  I plan to enjoy you this much as well…………………but I will win at cards………………….

 Anyway, pray he gets to go home soon so they can get back to the card games, newpaper puzzles and their bible study.

the lost around us……here and across the globe

today when John and I went to get some breakfast in our jammies, we saw someone just wandering the parking lot next to the donut shop.  And then she was wandering in circles in our parking lot.  I couldn’t catch her eye but the look on her face was one of confusion and she literally walked in circles……….I tried to talk to her but she was too far away and I was pinned in the drive thru.  I really didn’t plan on getting out of the car and considered who might be seen as confused if I did in my unmatching jammies in cold weather………………..So I asked at the window, when we finally got there, who she was and if she needed help.  They told me she lives across the street but was over here a lot.  I tried to find her as we got our food……….we had cleaned out the front seat, so that she could join us and bought extra to give to her.

then…………………..we couldn’t find her………….not at the donut shop, the bread store, the grocery store, Sonic, the glass shop………………..I just don’t have any idea where she could have gone………………..

all that said,  it was a reminder of those around us here in our community in need.  There are lost, wandering people here and all over the globe.  Just people, like me.  And you……..This was a missed opportunity for me.   I’ll be dressed the next time I am out that way, just so I can get out of the car and talk with her, encourage her and perhaps help her along the way.   All of us need a little help sometimes……………………………….

 And it reminded me the importance of knowing what this website is and reading websites about  www.whatadifference.org/

stuff matters………we need to get involved

found this site today……….. www.boostup.org

check it out and send a boost to a kid struggling to stay in school.

 looked at www.whatadifference.org also.  worth the click……………….

Thinking and praying…………………

that’s a lot of what I do……….I think…………and I pray……………..about life and people and people’s lives…………I believe in the grace of God our Father and I pray that I can extend that to all who cross my path……………………….I am hoping that God’s grace is over me as I explore things that seem to be controversial but to me just down right important to the kingdom……………….

 Like  THE CALL – children of Arkansas loved for a lifetime.  I do think that all of us are called in some way to answer the command set forth by scripture. 

Here are some of versions of this verse that speaks to this……………

James 1:27 (King James Version)

 27Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

James 1:27 (New International Version)

27Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

James 1:27 (Young’s Literal Translation)

 27religion pure and undefiled with the God and Father is this, to look after orphans and widows in their tribulation — unspotted to keep himself from the world.
Here’s how orphan is defined.
or·phan       (ôr’fən)  Pronunciation Key 
n.  

  1. orphan 
    1. A child whose parents are dead.
    2. A child who has been deprived of parental care and has not been adopted.
  2. A young animal without a mother.
  3. One that lacks support, supervision, or care: A lack of corporate interest has made the subsidiary an orphan.  
  4. Deprived of parents.
  5. Intended for orphans: an orphan home.
  6. Lacking support, supervision, or care.
  7. To deprive (a child or young animal) of a parent or parents.


    [Middle English, from Late Latin orphanus, from Greek orphanos, orphaned; see orbh- in Indo-European roots.]
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition
Copyright © 2006 by Houghton Mifflin Company.
Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

So I feel I am called and you are called……………to foster………….for me and Kenny, yes, for you no, NO, or………………………. maybe……………..I would ask that anyone who can,   at least attend an informational meeting for The CALL.  Their website is on my links sections.  (I am so proud that I was able to separate my blogroll from my websites—thanks SUZY!!!!!!!!!)

There are tiny ways to help ———babysit in only a 3-4 hour time frame on the weeknds the training are at our church, Fellowship Bible Church, North.  Those would be March 1-2 and March 15-16.  The same kids will probably be at both weekends……………..Their parents are giving up these two weekends of precious time with these babies so that they might reach out to babies of people who, for many reasons, cannot care for their own child as you care for your child……..so these potential siblings to foster children need some of our time too.  I know, I’m thinking the same thing…………………..it’s my free time too and I don’t like to give it up but I feel this is a tangible way to help. 

Another tiny way to help is to say “Hey, I have less that 10 points on my driving record, (just kidding it may be less than that!)  I could cart a kid to the dentist for a working foster mom!  Sure, give me the 4 forms to submit.”

Another less tiny way would be to say “Sure Sharon, I’ll be an aunt to your foster kid.  I can take him to the dollar theater once or twice a month and then to Mickey D’s”

I am praying that God will raise up people to surround those of us who feel led to do this.  And really, it’s to surround those children who do not know the safety of a home,  a home just like you are safely sitting in as you read this or will go HOME to after work today……………….we are richly blessed by God as his Christ followers and I believe we are to pass those on in HIS name.  I will be thinking and praying on this one for a while to come……………………

And actually, I am praying that I can get my garage cleaned out to pass our final home visits………………..any takers……………we’ll grill when it’s done……….no, I am serious!